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What Makes You Smile Before Going To Bed? Part 2

Posted by Raunak Mahajan on October 5, 2012

It saddens me, to see people over-complicate their lives and entrap themselves in a self woven web of sorrow and distress. Keywords here: “over-complicate” and “self woven“.

I sympathize with fellow human beings whose sufferings are beyond their control and a consequence of external circumstances that are not of their doing. But there are others, and many, who complicate normal circumstances to create an illusory state of hardships. They then drown themselves in their self imagined sorrows and soon enough start blaming others around them.

While at times I have the liberty to ignore such behavior, it becomes extremely hard to deal with when people displaying it are closely related to you or are ones you care for. More often than not, at the end of such melodramatic acts, it is I who ends up being labeled a villain. And that hurts.

So in order to avoid being hurt myself, I have decided to “Mind my own business“. Even when the person who is going through one of the above attacks is closely related to me, I will just let them be. I will not try to speak sense into anyone’s head. I will not try to awaken anyone’s mind. I am not going to try to be a savior. To be one, requires a level of spiritual accomplishment that I have not attained. And until I attain that, I shall “Mind my own business”.

I don’t think I’m the only one who experiences such tough situations. Any similar stories out there?

I just wish more people would just Simplify their lives and be Thankful to the Divine for all the things we have. For those of us lucky enough to be awakened to the possibilities of our lives, here’s an extract from one of my early posts.

Was pondering upon parameters of happiness when I thought of this: When you hit the sack at night do you smile and feel happy about seeing the next day in the blink of an eye? What is it about the next morning that makes you wanna sleep and travel through night at the speed of light?

Here are a few things that put a smile on my face when I think of waking up the next day:

  • the morning newspaper crossword 🙂
  • the morning cup of tea 🙂
  • the period of solitude and self reflection that I spend in the toilet 🙂
  • the good morning greeting to my folks and hearing their response 🙂
  • the comic strip in the newspaper 🙂

With a little more effort, this could translate into an effective scale for measuring happiness and work/life balance. So what puts a smile on your face?

 

 

 

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Of Happiness Ch.2: Desires and Wants

Posted by Raunak Mahajan on August 4, 2012

Desire is an urge to possess, act, or think determined by instinct which in itself is slave to the need to survive and multiply. Want is the expectation to see an event unfold in a way that would fulfill a desire or an ego.

Fulfillment of a desire leads to a condition I have earlier called “Absence of Happiness” while that of a want gives root to “Happiness”. Both these conditions have scales and are not unique points. The degree of “Absence of Happiness” depends upon the importance of the instinct that determines the desire that has been fulfilled. Similarly, the degree of “Happiness” depends upon the degree of desire or ego fulfillment that results from the realization of the want.

Illustration:

Scene: The Big Bang Theory Season 2 Ep. 16

Sheldon: You’re sitting on my spot……..zero zero zero zero…..

….Penny: Fine. Happy?

Sheldon: I’m not unhappy.

By getting out of Sheldon’s spot, Penny has satisfied his want that she ‘gets off his spot’. The realization of this want results in the fulfillment of not his ego, but of his desire that stems from his instinct of possession and identity. Since the end result is the fulfillment of a Desire, Sheldon feels a state of “Absence of Happiness” and not the condition of “Happiness”. Hence the statement “I’m not unhappy”. The degree of “Absence of Happiness” that Sheldon experiences is mild because his possession of his spot does not in reality serve to a large degree the need for survival and multiplication.

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Of Happiness Ch.1: Decoding The Condition

Posted by Raunak Mahajan on August 2, 2012

D1. I will not define the substance of Happiness, truth be told: I cannot. I have spent enough energy on it and failed miserably. What I can state though is only its nature of being; Happiness is a condition. And since every condition must have an origin, I will attempt to explore the origin/s of Happiness.

D2. I treat Happiness as a standalone condition that has no bearing on other universal phenomenons like Nirvana, Enlightenment etc. My subject here is Happiness itself and not its correlation with other conditions.

D3. From D2 it follows that the negative of Happiness is not “Sadness” or “Unhappiness” but it is “Absence of Happiness”.

D4. Negative does not mean Opposite. Negative denotes the lack of a condition. While opposite denotes presence of a condition that produces effects with opposing characteristics. Hence, “Absence of Happiness” is NOT the Opposite of “Happiness”; It is the Negative of “Happiness”.

P.1. One of the origins of Happiness that I experience is ” Fulfillment of One’s Own Want”. To comprehend this and exploit it to the fullest, lets look at the other other side of the coin. It is equivalent to studying darkness to better appreciate light. So in our case, lets look at “Absence of Happiness”  for a moment.

If the above stated origin holds true then it follows that,

  • Fulfillment of something that is NOT a want = Absence of Happiness
  • Fulfillment of something that is SOMEONE ELSE’S want = Absence of Happiness
  • No Fulfillment of one’s own want = Absence of Happiness

The condition of “Absence of Happiness” can easily be confused with “Happiness” in real life experiences . Many people wonder why they do not feel Bliss even though they have several experiences of Happiness. Assuming that “Bliss” is strongly correlated with “Happiness”, the answer may lie in the fact that what they believe to be experiences of “Happiness” are really experiences of “Absence of Happiness”. In many cases it becomes difficult to differentiate between a condition and its negative.  The 3 criteria mentioned in P1. can help people differentiate the condition of “Happiness” and “Absence of Happiness” better.

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What Makes You Smile Before Going To Bed?

Posted by Raunak Mahajan on July 22, 2012

Was pondering upon parameters of happiness when I thought of this: When you hit the sack at night do you smile and feel happy about seeing the next day in the blink of an eye? What is it about the next morning that makes you wanna sleep and travel through night at the speed of light?

Here are a few things that put a smile across my face when I think of waking up the next day:

  • the morning newspaper crossword 🙂
  • the morning cup of tea 🙂
  • the period of solitude and self reflection that I spend in the toilet 🙂
  • the good morning greeting to my folks and hearing their response 🙂
  • the comic strip in the newspaper 🙂

With a little more effort, this could translate into an effective scale for measuring happiness and work/life balance. So what puts a smile across your face?

 

 

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